This month I thought it'd be fun to participate in Expat Q&A hosted by Bailie and Belinda. It's always fun meeting fellow expats!
Q1: What advice would you give to your pre-expat self?
Wow...where to start??
First I would say, congratulations. Congratulations on being brave enough to take the first, terrifying leap towards living your dream. It's scary, but you won't regret it!
taken a few months before I met Fionn, Bavaria, and huge life changes!
Second I would say, manage your expectations. Every move, whether you are moving across the ocean or across your state, will come with its own "period of suck". You're new, you don't know anyone, you don't have a routine. That will come, but not right away. For this move in particular, you have to factor in the fact that you've just gotten married, jumped headfirst in the insanity that is the military lifestyle, and really "left home" for the first time. You WILL NOT adjust to all of these changes right away and that is totally normal! Don't beat yourself up and assume you've failed.
Q2: How do you reconcile what you thought life would be like in your new home and it is in actuality? i.e. did you think you would be fluent in your new language and your are struggling with the basics.
I thought I would make a lot more German friends. That has been really hard for me. I have a lot of German friends from my past experiences abroad, but I can count on one hand the local friends I've made here in Bavaria. I love love LOVE my fellow expats here, but I still wish I had integrated a little more.
I also thought I would be able to easily find a job here. HAH. That's a rant for another day. :P
do my sunglasses make me unapproachable?
Now I've got my own question for any of my fellow expats:
If you could do it all over again, would you choose the expat life?
My answer? Yes. Despite the heartache, headaches, and general pains in the butt that have come with deciding to move abroad, I would do it again. And again. How about you?
Looking forward to reading your comments!